"I. LOVE. THAT. DRESS" - The proper way of a woman complimenting another woman

Happy Tuesday World!

Complimenting is an art!

Compliments are important because they are a way of expressing your opinion without making it all about you; at least it shouldn't be all about you and how YOU like his hairstyle, and how YOU like her smile and how YOU, YOU, YOU, YOU... Point made! It is YOU indeed who compliments, yet the content has to be about HER. Sometimes, expressing ones admiration towards another can become frustrating and we end up not saying anything, and...

One particular soft spot I have been noticing after interacting with thousands of people in my amazingly awesome career and superbly colorful social life (so modest this one!) is how a woman pays a compliment to another woman. Or, better said finding the art of paying SENSE-a-tional compliments without questioning whether you did a good job or the other person thought your admiration was, simply put, fake!

Complimenting someone is an art, and, like most other things in life, it takes practice and a little bit of time and thoughtfulness to pay the most SENSE-a-tional compliment in the history of YOU ;)


Here is part 2 of 3 thoughtful ways to address compliments coming to and from you:


2. The I Love That Dress Compliment


That's great! Good for you! But what does that have to do with complimenting ME?

A dress, a pair of shoes, a necklace, a pair of earrings are inanimate objects, which entails that they do not have ears, or a mouth or a brain to process your compliment - you loving them. They won't reply to you saying "Oh! You love the way I look when this person I'm on takes me out of the closet and brings me outside of the house? Oh! Jee, thanks!" By now, you should get my point; you are addressing a conversation to a dress, that doesn't really do much besides patiently waiting on a hanger for the next occasion, to be seen - you are removing the PERSON out of the equation.

When meeting a woman that wears something you absolutely love, talk to her, not to her attire. Say things like "You look stunning!", "You are gorgeous!", "Your look so beautiful in that dress!", "That dress belongs to you- you make it shine!", "You look so hot, I'm jealous!". Only if you are attending the fashion week in NewYork City or Paris or anywhere else in this world, and speaking directly to the designers letting them know how much you love that dress, and those pants, and those shoes should you express your admiration and love for a remarkably outstanding attire.

Making slight changes in the way you express yourself when complimenting other women makes you look bold, approachable and irresistibly classy. Paying a compliment is all about making the other person feel special, especially when her looks come to play. Complimenting her, instead of her outfit brings her a sense of entitlement over her choices to mix and match, pay attention to details and express the way she feels and what she's about through her appearance. Honour her inner energy by complimenting her outer beauty.

The magic formula is:

THAT + DRESS + BELONGS + TO + YOU !

Today's assignment is to use this formula on three amazing women you would steal attire from, and see how their way of interacting and conversing changes. 

Tomorrow we will be addressing the "You Look Beautiful" compliment...

Stay classy and share this article with someone who wear that beautiful piece of crafted art :P !

oxx,
Andrina