"YOU. LOOK. BEAUTIFUL." - The proper way of a woman complimenting another woman

Happy Wednesday World

Complimenting is an art!

Compliments are important because they are a way of expressing your opinion without making it all about you; at least it shouldn't be all about you and how YOU like his hairstyle, and how YOU like her smile and how YOU, YOU, YOU, YOU... Point made! It is YOU indeed who compliments, yet the content has to be about HER. Sometimes, expressing ones admiration towards another can become frustrating and we end up not saying anything, and...

One particular soft spot I have been noticing after interacting with thousands of people in my amazingly awesome career and superbly colorful social life (so modest this one!) is how a woman pays a compliment to another woman. Or, better said finding the art of paying SENSE-a-tional compliments without questioning whether you did a good job or the other person thought your admiration was, simply put, fake!

Complimenting someone is an art, and, like most other things in life, it takes practice and a little bit of time and thoughtfulness to pay the most SENSE-a-tional compliment in the history of YOU ;)

Here is part 3 of 3 thoughtful ways to address compliments coming to and from you:

3. The You Look Beautiful Compliment

Now, that is a compliment! You Look Beautiful or You Look Stunning or You Look Gorgeous are hired for life! It takes so much class to say this to another woman, and it takes even more boldness to find the perfect response. Oh! the love and empowerment coming out of a woman saying to another woman that she looks beautiful, you have to adore it! On the other hand, if said with rolling eyes, or a raised eyebrow, or duck lips, it can become irritating because nobody likes to be sugar coated and lied to in their face - save yourself the trouble of being the faux version of humans, or even worse, getting smacked in the face by a woman who can't deal with your BS. When seeing a gorgeous women who looks beautiful think of the way you would compliment a bride on her big day, use all your teeth, have that twinkle in your eyes and say it from your heart You... Look... BEEUTIFUL.

It takes a confident and powerful woman to acknowledge that another woman looks stunning, and guess what will happen once you start noticing the beauty in other women? Your self-esteem and value will automatically increase. Most times women would rather bite their tongue than pay another woman a compliment because they feel that it takes away from their shine and glitter when in fact is shows how insecure they truly are. A great way to show your admiration is to start with "You look beautiful! That dress on you, that necklace, your hair... stunning!" This shows that you are fabulously present to observe her for all that she is and let her know that she stands out. By pointing at the different pieces she wears, you portray yourself as honest and trustworthy. After they reply to your compliment, you can use compliment #2 and #1 and say "Those shoes are so cute. I love the way you wear them. Where did you find these hidden treasures?" BOOM! Can't get any more SENSE-a-tional than this.

Going one hundred and eighty degrees away from saying it, is receiving it; what can you say when someone calls you stunning, or gorgeous, or beautiful, or all three at once? The best way to answer is with "Thank you! What is your name?" alongside red ears and rose cheeks. Now that you know the qualities of the woman saying it, you also know that she can potentially become one of your future bffs, or someone you MUST keep within your network. One huge mistake I find when responding to this powerful complement is saying: "Aww.. You're so cute!", "Aww... Thank you dear!", "Oh, honey. That's so sweet!" There is nothing cute, or dear, or honey-sweet about me being super frank with you. If anything, using sugary-baby-like words and diminutives creates a hierarchy where you are the queen of the world, and the complementer is your subordinate - it's like a mother talking to her child... It's like climbing on top the mountain and yelling "I am so insecure!" for the world to hear. So, thank them, get their name and start a conversation where you return the compliment at some point or another.

If you happen to walk down the streets of TIFF, wearing a lime green dress, hair up in a bun and somebody walks by you saying "You look beautiful!", give them your biggest smile, look them in the eyes, and say "Thank you very much!" That's it!

The magic formula of giving:

YOU + LOOK + BEAUTIFUL !

The magic formula of receiving:

THANK + YOU ! WHAT + IS + YOUR + NAME ?

Today's assignment is to use this formula on three amazing women you find stunningly beautiful, and see how their way of interacting and conversing changes. 


Tomorrow we will be recapping it all in one lengthy article. Repetition is the magic trick to memory and behavioral change...


Stay classy and share this article with someone who wear that beautiful piece of crafted art :P !

oxx,
Andrina